CancerCare Counts: Therapy is child's play at Lancaster charity

While adults try to come to terms with the situation, children can often be overlooked as parents struggle to give enough of themselves to the child.

CancerCare child therapist Helen Fry understands as well as anyone how children can be affected by the trauma of cancer.

Helen has worked for the charity for three years, and is currently training in play therapy in Edinburgh, learning the language of symbolism and metaphor.

This is often the only way a child can communicate their feelings when the worst happens.

“It draws on a lot of different theories,” she said.

“Counselling, Jung’s work around symbolism, ideas about attachment and child development.

“Children tend to work better with metaphor and through play. They play out what is happening within their families.

“Some children like having that extra bit of space and time and attention that’s separate from everything else.”

CancerCare offers up to 20, 50-minute sessions of one-to-one meetings in their specially adapted space, The Loft.

It’s a light and airy room that opens up directly onto a pretty garden area at the back of the main CancerCare building in Slyne Road.

The garden houses a rundown outbuilding that the charity would like to renovate into a space for older children and teenagers.

But it’s all dependant on funding.

In The Loft, Helen has assembled a selection of items that help children play out their fears and worries.

A sandpit is a popular choice, with a whole host of characters, figures and natural items that a child can use to express themselves.

“The child might choose an ambulance and nurse and play out a scene,” Helen explains.

“We try to stay in the metaphor, and in the world they’re creating.

“They’re addressing their issues but play is the language.

“If we say something like, ‘what’s it like that your dad has cancer?’, a child would find that difficult to put into words, so we do a lot with puppets, acting out, dressing up, songwriting, art, masks, even sword fighting.

“Some children just like sitting quietly, or reading, and some children like going into the little house.

“One child went in and threw everything out and then wanted me to bring them food.

“Another child would come each week, get a car and play in the sand. The wheels would get gummed up, and he’d wash it until the wheels were released. He’d do this over and over for several weeks.